Speed Friending for Moms

 After moving around SO MANY TIMES the past 10 years of my life, I am like so over making friends. I know, I know, that sounds really bad. I just wish there was a faster way to make friends. 

So why can't we have speed friending for moms, you know, like speed dating? I mean, I think I'm on to something here. Everyone could come up with a list of questions that you want answered that would help you decide if you were compatible with one another. We could all meet at a great restaurant and everyone would have three minutes with each person. There would be a timer and a bell. And wine. After years of moving I can pretty much tell within the first few minutes of interaction if it will last beyond the first conversation. So if I could just have a few minutes with twenty different women, I could probably narrow down my options. 

That being said, I'm now going to say the complete opposite. I've also been surprised. I've learned over the years that first impressions are sometimes mostly wrong. In fact, I am typically the person who makes a terrible first impression. So I beg of you, give me another chance (and another glass of wine) and I'll make a great second impression! We as people, and especially as girls and women, seem to think that we should be hanging out with people who are just like us. That we have a “type”. And I just think we have it all wrong. Yes, as a mother, a lot of my friends are also mothers. And when we were military, most of my friends were military too. They were my people. They “got” me; we had a lot in common; it was easy.

But as I've gotten older I've realized that having something in common is not always the first step to a good relationship. Some of my closest friends are women who are completely different than me. Women who don't have children, women who have children in different stages of life than mine, women who don't have a college degree, women who are pastor's wives, women who have lost their husband, women who work full time, and women who live across the country from me.




Having something in common with someone doesn't always mean you'll hit it off. There are 

women I have met and I think, "We should be friends because we have everything in common!" But 

we just don't click. Sometimes people who you least expect make the best of friends. I've also realized 

that I like women who are different than I am. I like someone who thinks differently than I do (it makes 

for some great conversation), whose goals are different than mine (it makes me re- evaluate my goals), 

whose sense of humor is different than mine (everyone is funny in their own way). 

But I do think speed friending would be a great way to start the friend making process, right?  It would be kind of an ice breaker, a quick intro to who you are. Then maybe we can just skip those first few awkward and uncomfortable encounters and get to the fun parts. 

So what kind of questions would you ask if you were going to speed friend? 

Here are a few of mine:

1. Do you talk the entire way through movies because you feel compelled to comment on everything? Oh good, me too.

2. Do you sometimes serve cereal for dinner and not feel bad about it? Yeah, me too.

3. Do you make your own deodorant? hhmm.....

4. Do you like wine? Yes, we can be besties.

5. Would you judge me for watching Sister Wives? Yeah, I know, I sometimes judge myself. Hey, we all have things we are ashamed of.

6. Do you understand and appreciate sarcasm? Like a lot of it? Because I'm sarcastic about 50% of the time. No, that's not true, its more like 75% of the time. Can you handle that? Some people can't. 

7. Will you promise to not tell me the birth stories for each of your children? And I promise not to tell you mine. 

Mom hacks:  things that will help you as a mom and/or things I love and think you should love too! 


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